Chatting with girls is often a distressing thing. Obviously, I want to win the girl's favor, but often because I can't chat carelessly, I make the other party unhappy, and finally I leave unhappily. Do boys often encounter this situation, but do not know where they are wrong? Then come to Xiaobian, let Xiaobian teach you 10 chat skills with girls and help you catch up with the girls you like!
I. a sense of substitution
What is empathy? We should feel her happy and sad from the perspective of each other. For example, when a girl says she's dumped by her boyfriend, you have to put yourself in her experience. It seems that you are also a person who has fallen in love and is dumped by your beloved boyfriend. Imagine how you will feel in this situation. Do you have the same mood? After thinking about it like this, you can say to her, "no wonder you are in such a low mood. It's hard for me to fall asleep when I'm lovelorn. Will you?"
On the one hand, this kind of answer can let her know that you can understand her feelings very well, on the other hand, it can also let her feel that you care for her. In addition, you need to continue to ask, let her then confide to you. However, it should be noted that some people may not like to keep asking about their experiences.
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2. Set psychological suggestion
You can set some voice to remind yourself from time to time that what you are doing is just a normal chat. This helps us:
1. Put forward different views and ideas tactfully. Don't say "nonsense, clearly..." but say "is it really like this? I've seen different situations... "Is that more acceptable?
2. Tell yourself to ask more questions. After finishing your thoughts and opinions, use "what do you think?" That's the end of the story. This provides a sense of participation and avoids talking on your own for a long time.
3. Remind yourself that when arguing, there should be no more than five sentences.
4. Tell yourself that you can let the other party get a "sense of identity" by telling about your similar experiences.
5. When necessary, appropriate body language can also be used, such as hitting the palm or handing over a tissue at the right time.
6. Even if you don't agree with each other, you can't mock each other. This is to dig your own grave and only alienate you.
7. Of course, pay attention to your intonation and tone when you speak
III. tips for topic attraction
If you really want girls to be interested in you, your conversation must be interesting to her. Only in this way can she think you are a funny person and pay attention to you. If your conversation is boring, even if it's because she can't get to your topic, she will think that the reason is you, because you are a boring person. Therefore, it is very important to have a conversation. Even if she is talking most of the time, as long as you interest her and let her say, she will feel that you are not bad and that you know her.
Therefore, pay attention to the following points:
1. Show understanding and approval of her point of view
Many AFCS in the beginning of learning bubble, the most likely mistake is always to suppress. If the girl you are facing is not very confident, it will make her think you are very impolite and arrogant to suppress her all the time. Therefore, novices should not easily use pressure. On the contrary, when chatting, it is easier for people to show their approval and understanding consciously or unconsciously. We all hope to find someone who understands us.
2. Create opportunities for her to find you - always leave
A lot of boys always end up talking when they have nothing to say. In fact, people will be most impressed by the beginning and the last part of a thing. If a conversation ends when there is no words, the girl remembers that you end up talking when there is no words. In this way, the other party will find it boring to chat with you, and will attribute the reason to you. So, if you want her to look forward to you, you need to give her a chance to find you. You can end the conversation at the beginning of the conversation, so that the other party's meaning is not exhausted.
3. Let the other party express their feelings
Choose a pleasant place, listen to music and wind. Listen to each other attentively in an atmosphere free from constraints. You can also talk about each other's dreams, struggles, likes and regrets. In the spiritual communication, giving some advice and encouragement properly will make the other party feel valued. You will feel that you are a person who can make friends with each other. You will not only have more trust in you, but also may want to talk to you and rely on you as soon as something happens.
4. In the chat content, try to make some ambiguous jokes, such as riddles like toothbrush.
Guide herself to think about sex, and then take the opportunity to tease her about how she thinks all day long. If she doesn't respond very well and thinks you're funny, she can be more direct next time. But if she is serious and unhappy about this kind of joke, it means that she is not prepared for it, and you should slow down. Whether it's chatting or learning, it's a process of constantly learning new things. If you want to catch a girl, you need to learn this skill well. Are these useful? Use it quickly!